The easy peasy way to quit porn
DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS
This book will enable you to stop using pornography immediately, painlessly, and permanently without willpower or any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It won’t place any judgement, embarrassment, or pressure to undergo painful measures.
In fact, there’s absolutely no need to cut down or reduce your usage whilst reading; doing so is actually detrimental.
You might be apprehensive about the very thought, or one of the millions actively attempting to quit. If so, perhaps what you’ve already read goes against everything you’ve ever been told, but ask yourself if what you’ve been told has worked? If it had, you wouldn’t be reading this book at all.
Perhaps you identify with the following questions:
Do you spend far more time viewing porn than you originally intended?
Are you unsuccessful in efforts to stop or limit your consumption of pornography?
Has time spent viewing pornography interfered with, or taken precedence over personal or professional commitments, hobbies, or relationships in your life?
Do you go out of your way to keep your pornography consumption secret (e.g. deleting browser history, lying about viewing porn)?
Has viewing pornography caused significant problems in intimate relationship(s)?
Do you experience a cycle of arousal and enjoyment before and during pornography consumption, followed by feelings of shame, guilt, and remorse after?
Do you spend significant amounts of time thinking about pornography, even when not watching it?
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Has viewing pornography caused any other negative consequences in your personal or professional life (e.g. missed work, poor performance, neglected relationships, financial problems)?
Warning
If you’re expecting this book to ’scare’ you into quitting using the various health issues users risk, such as sexual dysfunction (including porn-induced erectile dysfunction), unreliable arousal, loss of interest in real sex partners, brain hypofrontality, and the blinding accusation that it’s a filthy, disgusting habit and you are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, you’ll be sorely disappointed. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you’d have quit already.
Conventional methods of quitting advocate using willpower, or ‘porn-diet’ substitution methods such as ‘using once every n days’ and cutting down consumption. Some sites list peer-reviewed research about neurotransmitters and neuroplasticity, and while these sites and informative, many are aware of the health risks and choose to do nothing, though such material is typically avoided. Ultimately, are equally ineffective as they don’t actually remove the reasons for using porn. Ultimately, turning something into a forbidden fruit isn’t how you treat addiction.
This method, referred to as EasyPeasy, works differently. Some of the things about to be said might be difficult to believe, but by the time you’ve finished this book, you’ll not only believe them, you’ll wonder how you could have ever been brainwashed into believing otherwise.
There’s a common misconception that we choose to watch porn. Porn addicts (yes, addicts) no more choose to watch porn than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, than heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It’s true that we choose to boot up the laptop or smartphone, fire up the browser, and visit our favorite ’online harem’. Occasionally I choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn’t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. Originally, curiosity and human nature took me there, but I wouldn’t have started had I known I’d become addicted, causing the decline of my health, happiness, and relationships. “If only I’d heard about sexual dysfunction on my first visit to that porn site!”
Take a moment to reflect, did you ever make the ’positive’ decision that you must/need porn to masturbate? Or that you should/must/need porn-induced fantasies to spice up sex with your partner? Or, that at certain times in your life, you couldn’t enjoy a good night’s sleep or perhaps even pass an evening after a hard day at work without surfing for porn? Or that you couldn’t concentrate or handle stress without it? At what stage did you decide that you needed porn, that you needed it permanently in your life, feeling insecure, even panic-stricken without porn, without your online harem?
Like every other porn user, you have been lured into the most sinister and subtle trap that man and nature have ever combined to devise. There’s not a person alive, whether a user themselves or not, that likes the thought of their children using porn to cope or for pleasure. This means that all addicts wish they had never started. That’s unsurprising: no one needs porn to enjoy life or cope with stress before they get hooked.
At the same time, all users wish to continue to use. After all, nobody forces us to launch our browser’s incognito mode. Whether they understand the reason or not, it’s only users that decide to knock on the doors of their online harems.
If you’re a porn user that depends on it for masturbation or sex at all and for any reason, all you need to do is read on. If you’re here for a loved one, all you need to do is persuade them to read this book. But if unable to persuade them, read the book yourself. Understanding the method assists getting the message across and preventing your children from starting. Don’t be fooled by the fact that they don’t have access to it now – all do before getting hooked.
The only thing that prevents us from quitting is FEAR! Fear caused by the belief that we’ll have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation, and unsatisfied craving in order to be free from porn. These spawn from irrational beliefs, both learned and acquired, such as:
Masturbation or sex leading to orgasm is the only and most important thing in life.
Porn is ’safer’ than real-life sex because porn can’t reject me.
Porn is educative and useful.
Entitlement to a ’superior’ sex experience.
More is always better.
These irrational beliefs spawn irrational consequences when acted upon, including:
Worshipping and obsessing when a ’perfect 10/10’ is found.
Perceiving yourself as a loser if you miss out on sex, as if it’s the most important thing in the human experience.
Holding out for a perfect 10.
Being excessively judgmental and critical of prospective partners.
Forcing yourself to have sex whether you want it or not